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Bedroom Issues: How Am I doing in bed?

If you started thinking how your performance is doing in bed, then you already have a problem. I can’t say whether you are actually bad in bed or maybe low on confidence. This is up to you to clarify. I’ll just try to explain some things for your convenience. The basis of the problem might be the simple fact that you must be very experienced to know if a woman has an orgasm or if she is faking it. And even very experienced men sometimes have a hard time to tell that. Bottom line is that you can never be sure if your performance is top quality in bed.
And that’s even before we take into account slip ups and “that time” when you were too tired or too stressed or you got drunk and, well, you know what happened. Unfortunately, these things can erode a man’s peace of mind and confidence and make him suspicious of his lady’s behavior, even if he shouldn’t be. Some times are good and some times are bad and there’s little you can do about it. Loosing confidence in yourself and throwing good self-esteem out the window just because of a slip up is not the way to deal with this.
Many things can go wrong, and they are not always under your control. As we all know, our life is so stressful and the man’s modern way of leaving (had work, need to make money etc) is doing its best to ruin his sex life. Many men had to resort to Viagra instead of try and relax a little bit and take things easier. Stress may be the biggest sex killer factor in our days. You can not really enjoy  sex if you are thinking about deadlines, projects, your boss, how to make more money etc.
Some of the side effects of stress, aside from its “sex killing properties”, is that it turns men to drinking “animals”, which is another kill factor for sex. It always starts small since going out with the guys is fun and hey, we’re just having a few beers. Before you know it, the number of beers grows and the “evenings out” turn into “nights out”. No wonder that a stressed man with a significant quantity of alcohol in his body is not performing in bed as usual. Men need to recognize the early signs of stress in their lives and take control of the situation.
Remember that once you’ve started asking questions about your performance you could easily slide into a pattern where low self esteem triggers a failure, which, in turn, sends self esteem even lower and so on. This is a negative avalanche effect on your sex performance. Try to be a bit more positive about things. You were probably tired or stressed. Or you may need to learn some new positions and break the bedroom routine a bit. Surprise her with a new trick or a fantasy. And if you really have a problem, don’t despair. Every problem has a solution.
The best solution for your sex problems is education. Try one of the sex guides and sex position advices offered below, and you will bring again your self esteem to its top notch.